Jude 2

In your world, household, marital relationship is it off limits to say things like she is pretty, looks good, etc. ?

Last weekend we were watching the 300. I was surfing the net at the same time and missed a few scenes. I heard Wendy say nice! I looked up and say Leonitas naked, rear view. What was that about?

FQ,

Let it go. I just had this same talk with my teenagers. It's okay! You're secure. Wendy is not going to run off with Leonita. And trust me...it was nice.

FQ you pretty much know about me......in class and all.....lol

At my house our relationship has grown to the point that when my wife sees a beautiful lady, she will call my attention to her......and I do the same for her with handsome men.....although I haven't seen any handsome men for a LONNNNNNNNNNNG time.....


It ain't no thang,,,,,,,,,they came home with us.

Oh and btw, this is called ,,,,,,MATURITY!!!

Shoot, it's not only marital relationships that deal with this stuff.

When my ex-girlfriend and I were together, she would make a consistent habit of pointing out celebrities she thought were attractive. Didn't bother me much until I pointed out how beautiful Kristin Kreuk was and then she came unglued.

She literally screamed, "AM I NOT PRETTY ENOUGH FOR YOU?"

Right then and there I almost wanted to say Nope.

I simply don't understand the double standard.

There's a place you come to in life and in marriage where you are secure in who you are, and secure in the relationship so much that you know your spouse in neither blind nor dead, just loyal.

Full Quiver wrote:In your world, household, marital relationship is it off limits to say things like she is pretty, looks good, etc. ?

Not off limits here

Pardon me for asking, but who or what is a Leonitas?

I don't watch much on TV.


TW

Yeah, that's pretty much a no-no around here. I still mess up sometimes and let my awe for a pretty woman cause me to shoot my mouth off, or linger to long in admiration or what not in the prescence of my wife. It's not a pretty sight when I do.

Full Quiver wrote:In your world, household, marital relationship is it off limits to say things like she is pretty, looks good, etc. ?...

nope

I know this was for the guys, but I had to express my opinion anyway. We've been married nearly 39 years and the only one I have a problem with is Sherry Easter, I know how pretty and talented she is, and he likes her. Its got to the point now that he really rags it on. Its all in fun (I think) but still bugs me.

My daughter and wife can drool over Sean Connery, and others, and It has no affect on me, so when I say that Freema Agyeman is pretty, it has the same affect on my wife (none). it's not about fun, it's about appreciating beauty. there is nothing adulterous, or lustful in that at all.

RamboPreacher wrote:..... so when I say that Freema Agyeman is pretty.....

Really!? You think so? She's pretty but has no appeal.


To the topic at hand: I am no longer in a marital relationship due extensively to this topic (and bipolar disorder).

The recent Disney Movie discussion reminded me that my ex stormed around for days after seeing Hunchback JEALOUS of the girl character's BEAUTY!! (I kid you not) and once came an inch close to a nervous breakdown when I flipped on FOX news and Meg Ryan was being interviewed. (And I don't even like Meg Ryan).

Thankfully, I no longer have to deal with such nuttery.

My wife and I talk about beautiful people all the time....

It's nothing for her to say "Man, He's Hot!" and I don't think twice about saying something like "My Goodness, she is FINE!"

So in other words...it's not a problem at all....we both know what the other is thinking come bedtime!!

And it's NOT "turn the light off".....it's "turn the light ON!" We strive to make each other feel attractive....Though I must admit...I don't see how she does it... She truly has her work cut out for her and makes it easy for me....

tmi.... just, tmi!