Postby TC » December 3rd, 2008, 5:43 pm
OK for everyone sorry this is so very very long...
TC, I read your post closely, so I ask that you read mine closely. I first want to thank you for expressing your thoughts forthrightly. I like direct communication like that. Harboring resentment or talking about people behind their backs is not productive, but airing out grievances constructively is beneficial, and I believe that you did that. Thank you.
OK I am sure I have not always been this way but I do my best not to talk behind some ones back. Resentment is not in my makeup anylonger
I want to forewarn you that what I am going to say will indicate that my analysis results in a rather critical assessment of your post. That doesn't mean that I don't appreciate it. I do appreciate your effort to communicate respectfully and candidly, and I want to communicate that way in return.
I think that your criticism stems from an offensiveness that you find with my beliefs, not from my conduct per se. I have several points to make in that regard.
No sir I guess you did not read my post or I did not state it well, I did not read but the first two of your post, Why? Because is was not about the topic. I guess I did read some of them somewhat because I read how you were quoted. But then my scan feature kicked and if it wasn’t about the song. I skimmed on thru.
I would like to ask you to go back and look at the thread that you say I hijacked and that you say I made about me. I made a comment that was essentially a political statement about the song. My post was about the song. Then two people came onto the thread and made me the subject of their posts, because they presumably didn't like my political statement. As far as I can tell, my comment about the song was not hijacking the thread. I think it is fair game to post a disapproving statement about the thread topic. If it's not then I'm certainly not the only one who does it. It is a common, even regular, occurrence. But the thread was about a political song, and my posts were political responses to the subject of the song.
Your comment was Cool. I'd buy that one if Steven would also write, "No Thank You, Mr. President," to make the collection complete.
Yes it is a simple statement but it spoke volumes.
Why because, one it tells me you didn’t read his comments on the page before the song, because if you have you would have seen he was saying thank you for your Service Mr President. No political statement just thank you for trying to do your best.
And 2 it tells me you didn’t really listen to the song because, he did not say, thank you for Appointing the right judges or thank you for stopping the evil democrats. It was a simple thank you for your service, thank you for being up those long hours, staying up late getting up early and putting the country above your personal life. So if you listened to the song are you actually saying, I don’t appreciate you not spending time with your daughters and wife but sitting in a long meeting about protecting our country. I don’t appreciate you seeking justice for those who lost their lives on 911, I don’t appreciate any of the sacrifices you made on a personal level, so that our country might be better. Do you really feel that way? As I said I totally disagreed with Clinton, I respect him for the sacrifices he made, but I can still despise him for his lack of personal ethics, for his lack of personal strength to be able to keep his pants zipped for the 8 years he was in office. I can totally despise him for his brazen disrespect for the office of the most powerful man in the world that he would care more for his personal gratification and satisfaction the honoring the office which he was elected. And that does not even go into my political beliefs in which we disagree. IS that what you really think? That is what you are saying. NO THANK YOU for your sacrifices and your service. Not sure if that was your intent but that was your result.
My rebuttals to my detractors' posts got back on topic. They were statements about President Bush, and that was the topic of the thread.
Again no they were not about the thread topic they were about your comment of the thread two totally different things
"The thread topic was about thanking President Bush, and the song mentioned disagreement with him"
I would love to hear where it is a disagreement with him. I guess I missed that in my many times listening to find that. Please quote it so I can see my error. Here are the lyrics where did you hear this
Good bye Mr President
I guess the time has come, for you to pack up all your things and turn the page
So I was thinking as you left, I’d try to write a song and tell you what so many of us want to say.
For all the sleepless nights you, I sure you must have had
For all the prayers I’m sure you prayed.
And for how you tried to lead us
When the way was so unclear
I’m sure it wasn’t always evident
But thank you Mr. President
Goodbye Mr. President
It will not be forgotten All the courage and the hope you helped us find
I can’t imagine how it felt, to stand where you were standing
and to try and make the calls you thought were right
so For those sleepless nights I sure you must have had
To put those lines around your eyes
For how you carried the weight
Even when the lights went out
I’m sure you’ll never know how much it ment
But thank you Mr President
So for those days ahead, when they write about the past
And everybody has their say
From all of us who know
You gave us everything you could
We hope you will remember this
Thank you Mr. President
Goodbye Mr President.
and since I don't think that a song of appreciation is appropriate to the record of this president without a song of disapprobation, I elaborated my reasons in response to the detractors who made me, rather than the political topic, the subject of their posts. Whether you realize it or not you have just proven my point,
No sir you just proved my point, you made a simple post about song and turned it into a political statement. Had you started a new political post about it then you might have gotten the same replies but you would not have hijacked the other thread. You still refuse to see that, you took a thread and made it all about you and your hate for GW Bush
This gets to what I perceive to be the actual crux of the matter: You are offended by my disapproval of President Bush. You mentioned that I should show respect to the President, but let me ask you: Have you ever written a post to people who were disrespecting Barack Obama or Bill Clinton or Jimmy Carter, telling them that they should not show disapproval of them? Have you ever felt the same way toward those posts as you do about posts that criticize President Bush? Have you ever written disrespectfully of Obama, Clinton, or Carter yourself? How do you feel when you read or write posts critical of them, in contrast to how you feel when you read posts critical of GWB? It is my estimation that your criticism of me is a reaction stemming from those feelings; otherwise, you would write similar reprimands, or feel like doing so, to those who criticize the presidencies of Clinton and Carter and the anticipated presidency of Obama.
Again you are making this is about what YOU think, You are trying to tell me what bothered me about the thread. When in fact if you read my post I made myself very clear about what bothered me. There is a time and a place for everything. The problem is the loonies on your side don’t realize that. We are supposed to be “civil” now that your guy is elected, but your side can not be civil no matter what. It is the same thing that happens all the time, the liberals say let’s be civil and out of the other side spew their hate over and over. I still think that your replies were you just a show of disrespect and shows how crazy the loonies on your side have gone. GW Bush has had unprecedented attacks on his character, on his policies as well as every part of this administration. And your comments are just another swing at him, in spite of the “we need to be more civil” by the left. There is nothing that I have seen written about Obama or Clinton ever that is one tenth the hatred of GW Bush.
What constitutes disrespect? Disapproval of a president's policies? Why is it wrong for me to show disdain for President Bush's politics--which will tend to bleed over into disrespect for Bush himself from time to time; but that didn't happen in the thread in question--but it is not wrong for others to deride Obama or Clinton for their politics? Why, in fact, does your post not include a reprimand of Dr. Ron and jinjer, for example, for their disrespect for President-Elect Obama, if the real issue is respect? No, I perceive that the real issue for you is that you are offended by my criticism of George Bush, and you filter that offense, understandably, as a perception that I am guilty of ettiquete infractions so abnormal that they deserve calling out.
There is none so blind as those who refuse to see, AGAIN this was not about policies, even your original post wild hit and run comment and then you tried to back it up. I don’t give a flip about your disdain for anything, but at least be honest, you may not like his polices but your disdain is for the man and the leaking is going the other way. Disapprove all you want but you need to be careful, because you guys have set the bar on how a president is treated and it might come back to bite you. Again you hijacked the topic and other were not replying to the original topic because you made it about you and your view. You are like every liberal I have ever met, you think you are so much more insightful than others. So insightful that you can tell what I really intended to say, or that there are other reasons for my post. Your perception of things is all the matters. Had you posted your “thoughts” on polices in another post, I would not have seen them because I would have read one line and ignored the rest of the thread. You are never going to change my views of this president or of his polices, (the ones I liked and disliked) you are never going to change my views of the Clintons, Carter or even Obama, And I don’t want to waste my time talking to you because you are not going to change your views.
I cannot say that I do not understand those who are offended at criticism of President Bush, because I do understand it. But I do not empathize with it. I will never empathize with the notion that Presidents are beyond criticism. I have noticed that the people who take offense to such criticism apply the principle only to the presidents of their partisan preference. When presidents of their partisan disdain arise, somehow the principle doesn't apply. I have no respect whatsoever for this kind of partisan respect of persons.
There is a time and a place for everything, this was not the time or the place for your comments. It would be in a new thread where the title informed the readers what they were getting into. It is a problem with the left, they just don’t know that there is a time to be beyond politics. I have such disdain for the way the liberals used the Paul Wellstone funeral as a political rally, how they use a fund raiser for disaster relief to throw in a “bush hates black people” FYI, not sure if you intend it or not or even if you see it or not but your “partisan preference” shows thru on your criticism. Your comments about why didn’t I say anything about comments about Obama or Clinton, in this post you act the third grader that when caught saying something bad, and your only reply is well Johnny did it.
Lastly, if you were on a liberal board--and maybe you are at other HTTP domains--and you regularly expressed your criticisms of Obama or Clinton on that board, rest assured that Democratic partisans would respond to your posts in such a way as to make the thread about you, rather than about the substance of your criticisms of Obama or Clinton. Is it lost on you that, for example, you made this thread about me? I did not make it about me; you did. You were good to start a new thread, but you nonetheless made it about me. You did not make it about the points of criticism I raised.
Again None so blind… I told you about you should have started a new post, Why you should have started a new post. It was a post informing of a song, you took it to make a political statement. Sorry dude like it or not you hijacked the thread. Yes this thread is about YOU… I started the thread, it was about you, and how hijacked the thread to spew your beliefs. I am sure you can read but you really need to work on your comprehension. Again I did not make it about the points you raised because I did not read the points YOU RAISED, it was about a song, that is why I read the thread.
This happened to me frequently when I was on Jude2 previously. I would post my substantive criticisms of the Bush administration; then people would post their criticisms of me; then I would respond to their criticisms of me; then someone would accuse me of making the thread about myself. I'll admit, that makes me angry. But you know what? Tim "dolfan" Shelton has never turned my substantive criticisms into threads about me. Never. I ask you to watch him. He always addresses my points; he never succumbs to the ad hominem temptation to oppose my points by turning me into the subject of the argument. I wish everyone who is tempted to accuse me of turning threads into threads about me would take a lesson from him. I don't expect them to do that, but I can wish.
Dude, have you ever thought that if this is happening over and over, that it might just be you? I have seen you read with filters on your eyes, you read it as you want, you believe it to be a personal attack. Well some might be but it might just be your communication skills. I have gone over every paragraph and tried to reply to them one by one.
TC, thanks again for expressing yourself candidly and with a sincere wish to communicate constructively. I hope you perceive that I have sought to do the same. The bottom line for me is that I cannot let your partisan preference for President Bush dictate a gag rule on my criticism of him. I will continue to criticize him for the things for which I believe he deserves criticism, and I will continue to react with opposition to partisan comments, as I wish, hopefully with no greater drama or fight than is customary coming from many other directions here.
Bottom line is NO ONE has place a gag rule on you, or your partisan preference against George Bush. Your hated is just that hatred of the man it can be seen over and over in your post. If you got past that hatred then maybe more people would be able to see your views as you would like. Why do I say hatred, because your comments about this song totally proves it. You took something you did not really listen to or read the comments made from SCC about it. You took it and used it to take a cheap shot at someone you hate.
Dude, take the time to really listen to the song, read the words over and over. Why because if you really did you could see that this song could be song to every president. As much as I hate Carter, his polices and his actions since leaving office, it could be sung about him. as much as I am disgusted by the lack of personal character and well as business ethics of Clinton it can be sung about him. As much as I disagreed with GW Bush on way too many issues for my liking, it can be sung about him. As well as much as I loved Ron Reagan it can be sung about him. Who knows if the same can be said in four years as we are getting our new president about Obama, but I believe he will spend many sleepless nights trying to do what he things is best. I have a feeling I will totally disagree with what he things is best, but I don’t think any president has ever done something to intentionally hurt the country. They all honestly think they are doing what they feel is best.
But I think your reminder not to hijack threads is legitimate, and even though I did not hijack the thread you say I did, I will certainly seek to abide by the principle.
Again you refuse to see that is your first comment was a complete lack of respect for the sacrifices of the man serving as president. Your first post proves you didn’t really listen to the words of the song and used it take a jab. “Cool. I'd buy that one if Steven would also write, "No Thank You, Mr. President," to make the collection complete” at least have the stones enough to admit it you were trying to be funny by taking a jab. When it went over like a lead balloon you tried to cover your six. If your comment was said about this song and it was about a president you liked I think you might see it without your blinders. If this song has been written for Obama by Kanye West, you would have loved it. But it was written by a Christian as a Republican president is leaving office. Again Proof of that is this song could be sang about almost every president.
What totally gets me is you still fail to see anything other than you want to see. I posted about your hijacking the thread and why how you did it was disrespectful, here is what you say “But I think your reminder not to hijack threads is legitimate” I did not write all this as a reminder for you, Your comment were Disrespectful and hijacked the thread. That is why I did this