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I Felt Dirty (L)

Posted: May 21st, 2009, 7:29 am
by Brandon Bowers
I was recently in a church setting, surrounded by many people that I have known for quite some time now, and had the chance to connect with someone I haven’t seen in a few years. Being the outgoing person I am, I went up to this person, said “Hello” and attempted to initiate a conversation.

What happened next was one of the strangest things that’s not happened to me in years.

I was snubbed.

Yes, it’s true. I was given a look that said to me “Ooh gross, why are YOU talking to ME?” I tried to continue in small talk, but it was obvious that this person couldn’t get away from me fast enough. I felt like a dirty homeless person.


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Posted: May 21st, 2009, 8:57 am
by A2JGirl
I went and read your whole post. Good stuff! Too many times I have seen "believers" treat other believers like they are on the bottom of God's list of favorite people. I'm glad that Jesus knows my own righteousness is as dirty rags and accepted this homeless person into His household!

Posted: May 21st, 2009, 9:05 am
by teach
well that is just strange... were you dressed badly or was that person just being completely rude?

now, even if you were dressed badly, it is still rude for that person to treat you that way. I guess I am just trying to make some sense out of this... Maybe I shouldn't be trying to make sense out of it... Maybe it is just plain senseless...

Wendy k

Posted: May 21st, 2009, 10:01 am
by Brandon Bowers
The person is just rude. That whole family thinks a little too highly of themselves.. They always have.

Posted: May 22nd, 2009, 3:04 am
by JohnDB
People are funny at times

IMHO there can be times that they have something on their mind that overrides there common sense. (such as talking to "so and so" about whether they should bring brownies or cookies to the Pot Luck tonight) And thereby snub you in the process. in their minds they think, "if he was a regular he woulda been here before now".

(the truth being that they simply didn't notice you up to this point)

Like I said...people are funny. Often we don't act in our own best interests such as being as friendly as we should to those we should be friends with.

But it is the "Christian" thing to do in extending grace and forgiveness to those that are too self absorbed to notice that they are overly self absorbed.

Unfortunately this exercise must be repeated so very often and liberally as church seems to be a magnet for these sorts lately. But...where else are you gonna find the "stars"?

Posted: May 22nd, 2009, 6:40 pm
by Linda
teach wrote:well that is just strange... were you dressed badly or was that person just being completely rude?

now, even if you were dressed badly, it is still rude for that person to treat you that way. I guess I am just trying to make some sense out of this... Maybe I shouldn't be trying to make sense out of it... Maybe it is just plain senseless...

Wendy k


Wendy, you are a young, slim, attractive, outgoing young lady...and I understand why you can't make any sense out of it. I hope this helps...when I was young, slim, attractive (questionable), and outgoing, I was liked by most people I meet. As I got older, gained a lot of weight, let my hair go gray...I noticed the folks I used to be friends with wouldn't have anything to do with me. I was at an assembly several years ago and tried speaking to someone I knew really well...she was really rude. Looked me up and down and wouldn't say a word to me. I had never done anything to this person and there was no reason for her to be rude, but she was. She, I feel, judged me on my looks and I didn't meet her standard, therefore she wanted nothing to do with me. I think we have a lot of folks like that now...but one day they will have to come face to face with God and be judged for there behavior. I've forgiven this person a long time ago and hope she makes it. I do feel God will judge on the way we treat others...I have always tried to treat others the way I would like to be treated. I hope this makes sense and helps you to understand a little better what Brandon was talking about.