Guarding your Heart on FACEBOOK!!!

Russell Roberts · Postby **Russell Roberts** » August 25th, 2009, 7:57 am

Amid the flurry of kidnap requests, mafia wars, and virtual hugs, many of us will find among our friends on facebook, those on whom we have had a crush in the past or those who have had crushes on us in the past.

The secrecy and anonymity of communication on Facebook makes it a ripe breeding ground of temptation to begin a secret correspondence with these people. We are ALL subject to this kind of temptation.

I highly recommend that if this situation applies to you, do not correspond with said individuals privately. I suspect that this will become a common problem in the future if it isn't already.

Brandon Bowers · Postby **Brandon Bowers** » August 25th, 2009, 8:35 am

Yup... Had a previous co-worker while I was in FL try to get a MySpace hookup with me.. That was scary..

I worked with her, and she was close with my wife.. Had to handle that one gently.

MacUser · Postby **MacUser** » August 25th, 2009, 9:22 am

Protecting Your Online Reputation
http://machintsandtips.com/general-tips/tip-8942/

Tips.. from a Business perspective also. Guard yourself.

Postby **Pastor Gary** » August 25th, 2009, 9:28 am

I graduated from high school 40 years ago, and have reconnected with a whole bunch of old classmates male & female as they planned a reunion. Gotta tell ya, having seen what they look like now, I am soooooo thankful I married my high school sweetheart! She looks 10 or 15 years younger than 90% of my old classmates.

No nostalgic hook-ups for me!

Ilovebigcats · Postby **Ilovebigcats** » August 25th, 2009, 9:42 am

Good advice. I agree!!

dolfan · Postby **dolfan** » August 25th, 2009, 12:55 pm

I married my gal, too, from high school. I did briefly reconnect with a college buddy and some old HS classmates but I then left Facebook altogether. It is just too much.

Susie Hamilton · Postby **Susie Hamilton** » August 25th, 2009, 1:55 pm

I do not do Facebook or MySpace. I do classmates.com. That is all I have time for.

Postby **Pastor Gary** » August 25th, 2009, 1:57 pm

Rahab wrote:I do not do Facebook or MySpace. I do classmates.com. That is all I have time for.

Classmates is a poor substitute for Facebook, IMHO, plus they charge!

Susie Hamilton · Postby **Susie Hamilton** » August 25th, 2009, 2:04 pm

I have had many invites for facebook but have not joined as of yet. Most people I WANT to keep in touch with have my email addy. I just have not felt a need for them as of yet. Who knows, I may break over soon.

pastorables · Postby **pastorables** » October 3rd, 2009, 6:00 am

I had a lady visit my store this week who shared that her brother's wife of 38 years (several children and grandchildren), a long time community nurse, hooked up with an old boyfriend online (presumably facebook, myspace, or similar) and decided to divorce her husband and move to the state where this old flame resides.

It was a truly sad story. Why do these things happen?

pa

ImaPK · Postby **ImaPK** » October 3rd, 2009, 6:16 pm

I must be the "exception to the rule". I reconnected with my HS sweetheart and we are going on 3 years married now. We reconnected on Classmates.com.

MacUser · Postby **MacUser** » October 3rd, 2009, 7:54 pm

Rahab wrote:I have had many invites for facebook

The invites are automatically generated from Facebook. I get tons! If you send them back to the person that "sent" them they are usually shocked that it's going on. Soliciting you to join a network by using your name as invite.. when it didn't happen.

Pastorables. Sad story about that family. Shame.

free · Postby **free** » October 5th, 2009, 6:12 am

Sorry to hear about this family however, I would bet that this relationship was in trouble long before facebook showed up.

Pastor Bill · Postby **Pastor Bill** » October 5th, 2009, 6:44 am

Rose and I both have connected with many old friends on Facebook, including past flames, the key is to have a strong marriage, if you don't and are tempted to find something else, Facebook is the least of your problems.

What's past is past, you can connect as friends, if someone pushes beyond, well deal with that no different than if it were someone you worked with, a neighbor, or coworker. One thing for sure is to be 100% open and honest with your spouse and share with them your old connections. One of Rose's High School flames sang at our wedding, and although we don't see him much, he and I get along great when we are through that area and stop in to say Hi.

If there is a weakness in your relationship with your spouse, don't blame it on something outside, just fix it, draw close to her and you will be blessed. Remember what you have and you won't have to worry about the temptations to someone else.

pastorables · Postby **pastorables** » October 5th, 2009, 1:41 pm

free wrote:Sorry to hear about this family however, I would bet that this relationship was in trouble long before facebook showed up.

I direct you back to the original post. This thread is about those who do not guard their heart in situations that are otherwise meant for true friendship.

pa

Russell Roberts wrote:
The secrecy and anonymity of communication on Facebook makes it a ripe breeding ground of temptation to begin a secret correspondence with these people. We are ALL subject to this kind of temptation.

I highly recommend that if this situation applies to you, do not correspond with said individuals privately. I suspect that this will become a common problem in the future if it isn't already.

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