scooter wrote:dalebert wrote:
Well thats good until they would want to join "the Church" then what would you tell them? Is ok to receive their money even as they are not a member and living in an adulterous state of double marriage and God forbid, wearing "rings and many others things"? What will you tell "those people" when they want to join or serve in that ministry after they have been driving for months to come to your church! I already know what you will say. And my question to you is why would you let them drive an hour each Sunday to come to your church while all along you know that if they would want to join the church or work in that ministry, your church will not allow it! Why? I just don't understand! Why don't you tell them now what is expected of them and how your church believes?
Response: Exactly! It's almost like the perfect deception.
While I completely agree with what you guys are saying; there is another view to consider.
I will give a local example. we have a few families in our church that know full well about (previous) membership requirements, and still remained active and supportive of the local church. They choose NOT to want to be members of the church, even now with the approved recommendations.
I have talked with these people and they are just not interested in the membership issue. they want to attend church, and participate and be as active as they want to be. The difference, I THINK between that and what I understand to be at a (generically speaking) TCOG, is that those members would not be allowed to participate in any ministry activities. where that line is drawn, I couldn't guess. But if they don't allow ordination (as COGOP doesn't), wold they allow a non-member to be the host or hostess or even a server for a church-sponsored fellowship meal/party?
People have different views of what it is to be "ministering". While I fully believe that the server at a church-meal
is ministering (whether they are members or not) - I can't say how that is delineated in TCOG. If, as I, they consider it ministering, then they would be in a double standard and hypocritical if they let non-members serve at said example function.
there are just too many variables to make broad brush strokes. and there are too many variables in "what-if's" to present every example.
I gave that example, because, in our case, we have a family that attends regularly, gives often and regularly, and are NOT members, and do not intend on being members, yet the woman is very active in the ministry, by coordinating our special events, meals, and fellowships. She was an integral part in coordinating the effort to get our kitchen remodeled. They couldn't vote in our business meeting, but they attend them. No hard feelings, that is just what they choose.