Pastor Bill, you wrote... "I guess the issue is that either you don't understand what I mean by a "standard" or you really feel that Christians don't need to live by any standards."
Response: Trust me, I understand what you are saying. I believe that Christians must live by standards. Standards set by Christ. To be Holy as He is Holy is the standard. To be a cheerful giver is the standard. To love others as self is the standard. To love God with everything about you is the standard. If you feel 10% is your number to make sure that you are meeting what the Spirit has led YOU to do, great. That doesn't mean that it is for everyone. For some, it may be 100% for others a mystery number that just goes out as opportunities arise.
You wrote..."
Pointing to Christ as our standard is great, in theory, but in practice it doesn't work, because none of us can measure up to Christ, Christ's life and walk aren't the same as what we are living in, nor is it supposed to be, there is not a need for another Savior (which is good, because no one is qualified to do it anyway)."
Response: See BOLD type...How can you say that, when that is what HE told us to do? Yes, we can't measure up. That's whay we need grace and Holy Spirit's guidance us. When we do otherwise, we start living in the bondage of the law again.
You wrote, "A standard is something you can measure yourself against, hold yourself accountable to, gage your progress, etc. A child grows and we look for certain milestones, first words, first steps, etc. If a 5 year old still can't speak, we recognize that doesn't fit the standard and we look for what is causing the concerns."
Response: When we see Jesus, we see the standard. Galations 5:22
“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control.”
Looks like standards to me.
You wrote, "I can't measure my life by Christ's because that is not a standard I can ever live up to, nor is it a walk I am supposed to repeat (I will never die on a cross to pay the price for anyone's sins, there is no need, and my sacrifice would be worthless)."
Response: Thus the need for grace. We can't do it the Smith Barney way.
You said, "Am I to be led by the Spirit, 100% YES, am I to seek to be more and more like Christ, 100% YES, Do I ever need to examine my life and see where I need improvement, 100% YES, we should all be doing that daily...so now what standard can I use to measure myself? The scriptures provide standards for living, and while the law no longer is a burden I bear, if I see things in my life that are contrary to His Word, then that is an area I need to seek to follow His Spirit more closely, and let Him lead me to improve those things."
Response: I agree 100%. BUT not everyone is bound by the same personal convictions. This is legalism.
You wrote, "Tithing is one of those standards. I can and do give cheerfully, and as the Lord prompts me, but I also know that I have bills to pay and often if I do not set aside a tithe FIRST, my check can be gone before I even know it. If I don't tithe, I can give cheerfully as much as possible, but it would be very little, because I don't carry cash on me, I don't carry a checkbook, I very seldom have money to spend or give. BUT I try to be faithful to give to God first."
Response: I differ only in that you are calling it a tithe, and teaching it as a 10% that people need to use as a standard. Sure it's a good principle. But that doesn't mean that everyone is required to do it... or even capable of doing it. Give whatever Holy Spirit leads you to give, just don't hold others to that level. Let them be led by Him also.
You wrote, "In fact I used to live just as you are promoting, I gave as God led, any time God led, but I realized one day that I was giving very little, because I wasn't giving God the opportunity to lead, I realized that (contrary to what I had thought) I was giving no where near a tithe, but a pittance out of much that God had given me. I wasn't living extravagantly, or wasteful, but I wasn't honoring God either. God's Standard of tithing showed me that, and I have been blessed as I have disciplined myself to follow that, I haven't always been perfect in it, and I don't believe God is going to send me to Hell or the Overseer pull my license or the Pastor kick me out, but I miss out in my relationship with God when I do not put him first (in all things not just tithes) and I thank God for providing a standard that I can hold myself accountable to, it has led me to be able to serve him more and be blessed by Him more."
Response: You gave as God led? How could that not have been enough to satisfy what God was requiring of you? It reads like you found a law to be more satisfying than cheerfully giving as God led. Maybe you don't mean that. BUT, that is what you wrote. How can you both give as he leads anytime he leads and not allow Him to lead at the same time? I'm confused

. Again, if the Spirit led you to give 10%, it doesn't necessarily mean that this is the direction for everyone. If that was the case, every missionary to a far off land should be teaching everyone else that they need to do the same. Do you see my point?
Remember that the OT tithe was a lot different than 10% on income. And WAS NOT required of all people. I really believe that this is the direction that FQ was wanting this discussion to go. What were the tithing requirements in the OT? To whom were they required? What did Abraham tithe? What did Jacob tithe? When did tithing start as a post resurrection teaching? Can we tackle these????