RuSKY wrote: Immediatly therafter, our clerk/ treasurer divorced and remarried. (both ex-pouses were and still are members)Also, the pastor got a two time D&R (non member) to moderate the sunday night services.
RuSKY,
I do not know the full details of the clerk/treasurer example you gave, but I will say this; as I understood this discussion of change concerning membership/marriage/divorce/remarriage I was under the impression that it was a discussion of divorce before conversion or divorce because of unfaithfulness or abandonment. Your example, it I understand it, is that a "Christian" couple (who happened to be members of the COGOP) divorced, both continuing to claim their relationship with Christ was unaffected, and then the women married another professing Christian (who happened to be a part of the same congregation/church). Are you telling me this was approved and applued by the congregation and the pastor? There was no church discipline or spiritual questions raised?
If this is the future of the COGOP, it will become one of the most liberal denominations in the country. It seems to be implied that the ministry will also go down this road of "disposible" marriages. If this is the plan the COGOP needs to give up any pretext of support for marriage and the family, any lessons taught would be in contrast to practice. Some people are glad their parents (Christian or not) committed to stay together no matter and beleive that that is God's will. If divorce happens, it is a failure, if before conversion it is to be repented of. If divorce happens after conversion it is even more distressing and if it is between two Christians there is a violation of Biblical principles that calls for Church discipline.
I would not be considered an "old liner" on this issue, but one of the most troubling aspects of this whole direction is that without clear Biblical guidelines concerning marriage the COGOP may move from an "historic" Christian view to a "post modern" view by default of each local church doing their own thing. The COGOP in essence will move from the "right" of the other Pentecostal/Holiness type denomiations to the far "left" in a very short time.
I am disappointed in the manner and direction this is taking. The COGOP has not defined marriage as between a man and a women, or given guildlines on what a Biblical marriage is. It has not developed scripture or sturcture to deal with the issue of those who come to Christ with divorce in their past, nor how to respond when Christians divorce. To be so focused on the membership issue blures the need for Biblical answers and direction on divorce.
Often the example of the good Christian wife who has suffered at the hands of an beleiving husband; who has to divorce for the sake of her life and the kids, some years later fines a good Christian man to marry, but then is disfellowship by the church. There is good cause to say she should be allowed to remarry and stay a member. However, what about the long married Christian man who becomes unhappy with his wife (maybe she put on some weight or does not please him sexually), so he divorces her and leaves the kids behind, marries a younger, thinner and sexier women, and continues at the same local church. Should he remain a member. The path the COGOP is going down will make room for both. I can not see how, with the new current practices, as you mentioned at you local church, it could be any different. If phyical abuse is grounds for divorce and remarriage, then a poor sex life is also grounds.
I am not attacking you, nor this lady at your church, nor your local church. I am saying that the COGOP is not ready to deal with the issues that will be raised related to marriage and divorce when it comes to membership.
That is just my opinion, but already today a person who talks about how they "kept" their relationship with God through three bad marriages will get more attention and praise then a person to talks about how they stayed married to the same person all their lives. Our post modren society relates to failure (as in Bill Clinton) better then it does to committment.
Firstson