nice pic of me

[stevenson]

I have to agree that it would make a great avatar.

teach, when the time is right, it'll happen. I wasn't looking to get married or even date when I met my wife. I had 3 kids and many failed relationships. But when I met my wife my whole world changed. Everything just seemed to fall into place naturally. My wife had no history! Never really dated, good church girl. I was totally opposite. Now 16 years later we are hardly ever apart. She's the love of my life!

[teach]

Not that I don't appreciate the effort, but I am doing just fine on my own. The circumstances of my last relationship showed me that I need some Wendy and God time before I can really have a relationship with the one God has for me.

Good frame of mind to be in



Definately a nice pic and you should be proud to post it.

thanks Paully, I am trying very hard to be as positive as possible and even though I know this, it is still hard sometimes.

wendy k

[one love]

as i said in your myspace wendy you will be fine I do like the new avatar

[oletimer]

Mike, I had no idea of your marriage situation, and meant you no personal hurt. Not going into the D&R issue.

Here is what I said.

I know that Mike was kidding with you, but always what out for dirty old men.

Mike Vande wrote:
oletimer wrote:
Also he wasn't married.

Don't settle for nobody's left overs.


That really hurts my feelings. It's hard enough to get through the day without feeling like most of my life has passed unfruitfully, but now I'm considered "leftovers" because the nutjob I married divorced me, walked away from God, and went out to sin with every man she could get her claws into. You do not know anything, about me, about her, or our marital problems, so you would do much better not to comment.

Again I mean you no hurt, Not being able to live with someone you love shouldn't keep you from being fruitless in life. One of the greatest men of God that I used to know was Bro Mixen (?MS) of my early days in the church (COGOP) The man did a great work for the Lord and church and many people didn't know just how much work that he did. Ron should remember him.

BTW he was divorced.

To those that really want to please God, I would give this old saying for what ever it is worth, "when life gives lemons, make lemonade".

[Mike Vande]

"when life gives lemons, make lemonade".

And if you're a leftover, be willing to join whatever mulligan stew you're dumped into?

You may not have intended hurt, but you indeed caused it, and not only to me. You should be more careful of what you say.

[Pastor Bill]

Mike, I had no idea of your marriage situation, and meant you no personal hurt. Not going into the D&R issue.

Here is what I said.

I know that Mike was kidding with you, but always what out for dirty old men.

Mike Vande wrote:
oletimer wrote:
Also he wasn't married.

Don't settle for nobody's left overs.


That really hurts my feelings. It's hard enough to get through the day without feeling like most of my life has passed unfruitfully, but now I'm considered "leftovers" because the nutjob I married divorced me, walked away from God, and went out to sin with every man she could get her claws into. You do not know anything, about me, about her, or our marital problems, so you would do much better not to comment.

Again I mean you no hurt, Not being able to live with someone you love shouldn't keep you from being fruitless in life. One of the greatest men of God that I used to know was Bro Mixen (?MS) of my early days in the church (COGOP) The man did a great work for the Lord and church and many people didn't know just how much work that he did. Ron should remember him.

BTW he was divorced.

To those that really want to please God, I would give this old saying for what ever it is worth, "when life gives lemons, make lemonade".

I don't think it was that comment that was as offensive as the "leftovers" comment. In light of that though, this one didn't help.

[TW]

oldtimer,

I don't believe that you meant to offend, however it is comments such as "leftovers" that brings offense. There are many on this board that have gone through the heartache of divorce. To make a thoughtless comment as you did only serves to renew that pain. I cannot believe that our Lord would make such a comment. I know that you were trying to encourage teach, but your choice of words leaves a lot to be desired. You seem to have a propensity for using cliches and old sayings, which is fine and good, as long as you think about the possible ramifications of using them. There is another old saying; "Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me." That old saying is a lie! Words can be very hurtful. The only advise that I have for you is to, guard your tongue. This is from one that is a "leftover."


TW

[one love]

I believe Oletimer meant no offense at all and probablly did not think about what he was saying. I am fully against D/R but it happens and I would be offended as well and felt it was hurtful. I just really feel he did not mean to say it that way.
I hope any that was hurt will be encouraged by the Lord and I am sorry for what some of you have gone through. I have a very close family member that has went through one of the worse situations that ended in divorce and it is heart breaking and very trajic, i am glad he does not read this and did not. I also have another very close relative that does read this and would probablly be very hurt by this and I hope she was not, and she believes as I do but I know it could cause hurt.

We really must think of others feelings when we post and think about "the other guy" I know I would never apologize for what i believe but that does not give me permission ot cause hurt to anyone.
May the Lord Bless you