frustrating.....

[pastorables]

Some peoples personalities are inviting in there very essence.

Wendy is an alien, she admitted as much herself.

Wendy, just send them a picture of your "special alien trick".

Seriously, concerning potential suitors, be courteous but firm with regards to your sabbatical from dating. If they truly care about you as a person, they will still be around when your season with God has changed back to everyday status.

This could also be God's way of weeding out the tire kickers (please excuse the redneck jargon). God will be faithful to your desire to please him. You can count on that.

Ritchie

[EagerBeaver]

well, I am not going to just try to change my personality...

i have been saying no. I guess I am just going to have to stop being nice about it and simply ask them not to call me so much.

Sometimes it takes one putting their foot down.

Granted I have never been a man that the ladies flock to, but I have had my fair share of instances where I had to firmly yet with kindness relay to members of the opposite sex that I was off the auction block.

I think that is what it is going to boil down to. I just hate being mean to people, but I guess that is the only way that these guys will get the message...

wendy k

Not mean, but firm. There's a difference...when you're mean about it, it alienates people completely, but when you're firm people know you mean business and they'll back off.

[teach]

ok Chris, I gotcha. Firm but not mean. I will try that.

Wendy k

[PastorDaniel]

Get a wedding band AND engagement ring to wear....it would at least run off the guys that don't know.....lots of young women that don't want the extra attention do it and there's not a thing wrong with it.

Since your in a "relationship" with Christ....when those unwanted fellows come knocking.....just hold up the ring finger and say "I'm in a relationship....sorry"

It's not lying....you're wanting to work on your relationship with Christ....so just be dating Him for a while...if that makes since.

[dolfan]

Teach, just be a complete dog. I mean, act like you are the party girl of the century. Then, every guy who hangs around and keeps calling you, cross 'em off the list and don't answer the phone. The ones who back away ---- that's what you wanted isn't it? Some space? Well, those guys will see you're not like that eventually, and then when they do come around, you can tell them, "I was playing the players at their own game, etc." It's the ones who like the real you that you may want to even be friends with, not the ones checking you out for gf material.

Or, maybe that's all just too complicated and convoluted, but if I was a girl and pretty, I think I'd do it just for the fun of it.

[RamboPreacher]

Wen is such a meanie. anything she says with firmness will be accepted as complete and utter rejection by the boys. hehehehehehe - just kidding. Still praying that God's will and priorities are happening for ya, teach.

[teach]

thanks again guys!

I appreciate all the kind words and advice!

wendy k

[Figilife]

[quote="PastorDaniel"]Get a wedding band AND engagement ring to wear....it would at least run off the guys that don't know.....lots of young women that don't want the extra attention do it and there's not a thing wrong with it.

Since your in a "relationship" with Christ....when those unwanted fellows come knocking.....just hold up the ring finger and say "I'm in a relationship....sorry"

It's not lying....you're wanting to work on your relationship with Christ....so just be dating Him for a while...if that makes since.[/quote]


*Lying, prevarication, fabrication - the deliberate act of deviating from the truth
Yes it is so lying......................

[RamboPreacher]

Get a wedding band AND engagement ring to wear....it would at least run off the guys that don't know.....lots of young women that don't want the extra attention do it and there's not a thing wrong with it.

Since your in a "relationship" with Christ....when those unwanted fellows come knocking.....just hold up the ring finger and say "I'm in a relationship....sorry"

It's not lying....you're wanting to work on your relationship with Christ....so just be dating Him for a while...if that makes since.

*Lying, prevarication, fabrication - the deliberate act of deviating from the truth
Yes it is so lying......................

Disagree. (you knew that was coming from this sinner, right?) If she is truly working on her relationship with Christ, how is it a lie to tell someone that she is doing that? as for teh rings, A while back in our youth group the girls all went through some classes and at the end received "promise rings" so they could remember that they are promised to Jesus.

just my dos centavos

[jessicacook]

Get a wedding band AND engagement ring to wear....it would at least run off the guys that don't know.....lots of young women that don't want the extra attention do it and there's not a thing wrong with it.

Since your in a "relationship" with Christ....when those unwanted fellows come knocking.....just hold up the ring finger and say "I'm in a relationship....sorry"

It's not lying....you're wanting to work on your relationship with Christ....so just be dating Him for a while...if that makes since.

*Lying, prevarication, fabrication - the deliberate act of deviating from the truth
Yes it is so lying......................

Disagree. (you knew that was coming from this sinner, right?) If she is truly working on her relationship with Christ, how is it a lie to tell someone that she is doing that? as for teh rings, A while back in our youth group the girls all went through some classes and at the end received "promise rings" so they could remember that they are promised to Jesus.

just my dos centavos

Dang. You beat me to it. Seriously though, she wouldn't be lying. She does have a relationship with God. One that everyone needs to work on. I think taking some time to work on it away from guys is smart.

I know a grown lady (she was in her fifties) that had never been married but a few years ago started wearing a simple wedding band because she felt the same way Pastor Daniel was describing. Not that she had guys knocking her door down or anything, but it meant something to her (and I think God honored her for that). (And for the record, she wasnot COGOP )

[teach]

Well, the whole ring thing is a little to much for me. I just don't feel comfortable doing that.

Plus, in some crazy way, that also brings unwanted attention. I don't really get it, but its like some guys want you just cuz they can't have you...

Weird huh?

wendy k

[Pastor Bill]

Well, the whole ring thing is a little to much for me. I just don't feel comfortable doing that.

Plus, in some crazy way, that also brings unwanted attention. I don't really get it, but its like some guys want you just cuz they can't have you...

Weird huh?

wendy k

I agree on that one, I wouldn't think that was the best idea, some men seek a married woman, affairs don't come with commitment. It's sooooo wrong, but then that's some people for you.

[Jamais Vu]

Any advice or comments?

Wendy k

advice: get a new phone number.

comment: you are only as vulnerable as you allow yourself to be.

[PastorDaniel]

Get a wedding band AND engagement ring to wear....it would at least run off the guys that don't know.....lots of young women that don't want the extra attention do it and there's not a thing wrong with it.

Since your in a "relationship" with Christ....when those unwanted fellows come knocking.....just hold up the ring finger and say "I'm in a relationship....sorry"

It's not lying....you're wanting to work on your relationship with Christ....so just be dating Him for a while...if that makes since.

*Lying, prevarication, fabrication - the deliberate act of deviating from the truth
Yes it is so lying......................

I appreciate those who have already jumped in....

But I still want to say myself that you are wrong. We ARE the Bride of Christ and spiritually married to him if we have been born again. So to say that you are in a relationship and not interested is NOT lying.

To the others....I see your point and it is ultimately "to each his own"

It was only a suggestion.

FigiLife....It kills me....how some people just want to jump the gun and accuse people.....I would never suggest that someone jus outright lie!