Why is it....

[cndlou]

To keep from hijacking the "Gay Boltz" thread... I have a question... This article made the comment about Mark Lowry and someone else being gay because they have never been married... Why do people (christian and non-christian) assume because a person has yet to find a spouse, they must be gay... I am one of those people... I have had "COGOP church people" ask a friend of mine if I was gay... and one was in leadership... I AM NOT GAY...(the thought just makes me feel sick) I just haven't found the person God has intended for me... I have very specifics as I look, and I am just not willing to take just anyone, just for the sake of being married... Maybe I am crazy for thinking that way...but that doesn't mean I am gay... (okay, that is my ranting and raving for the day...now I can move on... )

[stevenson]

I know good christian people who have chosen to not marry. They are not gay or lesbian, they have just chose to remain unmarried. And that's their business. I see nothing wrong with it.

[one love]

It is better to make sure you find the right one from the get go, I commend you

[INLOVE]

I think in general, people don't know how to say out of other people's business.

[dbserv]

I respect you immensely CL.


In the 60's & 70's, there was a lady D?) who worked @ GH who had never married. At the same time, there was a man (LS) in ND who had never married.

At some point, mutual friends introduced them and they found the RIGHT person that God had intended for them. It just took them longer than the rest of us.

They have been together for many many years now and I believe it is because they did NOT get in a hurry and waited upon God's time for their marriage.

[dolfan]

Some of the smartest people I know never married. They've seen wrecked marriages all around them, like we all have, and they've decided that, "Hey, I'd love a husband/wife, but if this is the deal then I'm better off alone unless a miracle happens." And, instead of looking for that miracle mate, they look to their own security, happiness, friendships, etc. and do wonderfully.

[Ilovebigcats]

If I was Mark Lowry and really not gay (we really never do know) then I would be HOSTILE at the implication in the article!

[Jennifer Smith]

cndlou,

Not everyone thinks that way... Remember, the people writing the article are trying to legitimize this lifestyle by making it seem there are many more who have this problem/tendency. They even resorted to mentioning two names based on no other evidence than the fact that the people are single, which is very wrong.

The church people who asked you may be judgmental or nosy, but it doesn't mean that everyone thinks that way. If I were you, in the future I'd call them on it...

[dolfan]

Jennifer, your comments reminded me of the Seinfeld episode where the college newspaper writer thinks Jerry is gay because he's single, thin and neat.

[HogWild]

Dolfan,

Not that there's anything wrong with it.

Just picking up on the Seinfeld commentary - not stating my opinion of homosexuality.

Not that there would be anything wrong with that either (me stating my opinion)...

LOL.

[Jennifer Smith]

Jennifer, your comments reminded me of the Seinfeld episode where the college newspaper writer thinks Jerry is gay because he's single, thin and neat.

I don't think I saw that one... I think super-neat people, especially guys, are so funny. We had a pastor that was so tidy, we used to move chairs just to watch him put them back...

It just shows how prone to prejudge we sometimes are... I have a cousin who has slightly effeminate speech (not the one who is actually gay)... This cousin is married with children, owner of his own construction company, teaches marriage classes at his church along with his wife and married daughter and son-in-law... and he is not the slightest bit gay! People are silly sometimes.