I need some advice.

[Pianoman]

TC,

We'll be praying for you! Can certainly see after the
way things have played out that you would have
a hard time even talking with this guy (I know I
would). If he's any man at all (let alone a minister)
- this has surely had to eat away at him all this time.

Surprised he would even come back to the area
knowing he faces the chance of exposure (unless
that's his intent). We'll pray that the Lord would
direct your words and that you would use wisdom
in your visit with him.

We had a state youth leader many years ago that
fathered a child out of wedlock. He did face the music
and in a very humbling gesture apologized to the
entire state at a convention. He did marry the mother
and did later become a pastor (and is still in the ministry
to this day) - but could have very easily become
discouraged and turned from God altogether.

Admitting you've messed up is hard to do! Be gentle
and God be with you!