1 QUESTION

[cndlou]

When does enough get to be enough... I know we are suppose to forgive...but do we really have to continue being hurt by the people we continue to forgive.... (And for the people who ask me not to post on here anymore, please "forgive me"....)

[jessicacook]

I have asked that question myself about my dad. I came to the conclusion that if he continued to stay in my life, I would just continue to be hurt by him. And for me, it was better if he was out of my life for good. I made that decision 2 years ago (almost) and I must say, I have felt MUCH better. I couldn't let go of the hurt and bitterness when I was constantly reminded of why I was hurt and bitter.

I haven't told him that I don't want him in my life, mainly because I haven't had the chance. He hasn't called or anything. But I just live right down the street from him and he doesn't even know. So one day I will run into him and have to tell him. I am praying that it's a day when I am strong.

[jessicacook]

I have asked that question myself about my dad. I came to the conclusion that if he continued to stay in my life, I would just continue to be hurt by him. And for me, it was better if he was out of my life for good. I made that decision 2 years ago (almost) and I must say, I have felt MUCH better. I couldn't let go of the hurt and bitterness when I was constantly reminded of why I was hurt and bitter.

I haven't told him that I don't want him in my life, mainly because I haven't had the chance. He hasn't called or anything. But I just live right down the street from him and he doesn't even know. So one day I will run into him and have to tell him. I am praying that it's a day when I am strong.

Praying for you.

[teach]

(And for the people who ask me not to post on here anymore, please "forgive me"....)

Why would anyone ask you not to post on here anymore?

[MacUser]

To Cndlou and JC.
Jesus requires you to forgive those that hurt you.. ( and I'll add for yourself and not for them )

Also it doesn't give license in any shape form or fashion to forever be trapped or abused by a demented, crazy, selfish, individual whether in poverty or wealth. Just cast your seed and rest! ( Mark 4:26 ) Let God do His work.

Be changed by the renewing of your minds. Reigning today by receiving God's amazing abundance of Grace and the GIFT of Righteousness thru Jesus Christ. (found in Romans 5:17)

God Bless

[scooter]

Sounds like you may be at that point now.

I like the scriptures about dusting the dust off your feet and moving along.

Try that.

[jessicacook]

To Cndlou and JC.
Jesus requires you to forgive those that hurt you.. ( and I'll add for yourself and not for them )

Also it doesn't give license in any shape form or fashion to forever be trapped or abused by a demented, crazy, selfish, individual whether in poverty or wealth. Just cast your seed and rest! ( Mark 4:26 ) Let God do His work.

Be changed by the renewing of your minds. Reigning today by receiving God's amazing abundance of Grace and the GIFT of Righteousness thru Jesus Christ. (found in Romans 5:17)

God Bless

Thanks for that. I have forgiven him, but I would just end up being hurt again. And would have to forgive again. So, for me, I just decided that I didn't want to go thru that process anymore. It would take a while to get over being hurt. We can't have a "normal" father/daughter relationship. He has a daughter that he loves. I have a Heavenly Father that loves me and has been showing me how HE can be my daddy and that He's all I need.

Sorry cndlou for hijacking your post!

[cndlou]

Jessica, not a problem...your statements (along with others) has given me a little insight....

Teach, short version, a little while back I said some things (on here) that I wish I hadn't said and shouldn't have said... and I was ask to no longer post on here and facebook... I complied (for a little while and will eventually go back into hiding) on here and have not complied on facebook... Words of wisdom, watch what you say on here...'cause you never know just who is lurking in the darkness...

[Pastor Bill]

When does enough get to be enough... I know we are suppose to forgive...but do we really have to continue being hurt by the people we continue to forgive.... (And for the people who ask me not to post on here anymore, please "forgive me"....)

Christ said we must continue to forgive 70 X 7, and I think we all know he wasn't meaning count till the 491st time!

BUT we have to remember that forgiveness doesn't require allowing continued hurts, there is a big difference between forgiving someone and blindly trusting them not to hurt you again, you can forgive, but trust must be earned, it's not sin to hold yourself back from being hurt.

[jessicacook]

Christ said we must continue to forgive 70 X 7, and I think we all know he wasn't meaning count till the 491st time!

BUT we have to remember that forgiveness doesn't require allowing continued hurts, there is a big difference between forgiving someone and blindly trusting them not to hurt you again, you can forgive, but trust must be earned, it's not sin to hold yourself back from being hurt.

Good post. This is what I was trying to say.

[teach]

Jessica, not a problem...your statements (along with others) has given me a little insight....

Teach, short version, a little while back I said some things (on here) that I wish I hadn't said and shouldn't have said... and I was ask to no longer post on here and facebook... I complied (for a little while and will eventually go back into hiding) on here and have not complied on facebook... Words of wisdom, watch what you say on here...'cause you never know just who is lurking in the darkness...

gotcha. I have just never known you to say something inappropriate so it through me for a loop.

wendy k

[cndlou]

It was one of those huge "oops" moments... I usually try to guard what I say closely...but this time I allowed the stresses of my life to dictate what I said... Honestly, when I was first ask about it...I was like...I didn't say that and so on... but then when I re-read my statements, I was like...oh Lord, I did say that... I have ask God to forgive me (and I am confident he has) and people hurt by my statements to forgive me (but people don't forgive as easily as God)... Anyway, that is why....

[teach]

It was one of those huge "oops" moments... I usually try to guard what I say closely...but this time I allowed the stresses of my life to dictate what I said... Honestly, when I was first ask about it...I was like...I didn't say that and so on... but then when I re-read my statements, I was like...oh Lord, I did say that... I have ask God to forgive me (and I am confident he has) and people hurt by my statements to forgive me (but people don't forgive as easily as God)... Anyway, that is why....

I understand

[rough_rider]

Sounds like you may be at that point now.

I like the scriptures about dusting the dust off your feet and moving along.

Try that.

Yeah, move on. If their trucebreakers, false accusers, always looking to fight, the bible says to stay away from people like that.

[dolfan]

If your enemy smacks you on the cheek, offer him the other one. If he smacks that one, you've just run out of cheeks to be smacked. Don't be someone's whipping post. You can be forgiving without being foolish.